Wish I’d Said That

Sometimes the comments are better than the post!

The Post:

A Providence Council person has proposed a curfew be established in Providence as a way to curtail growing gun violence in the city.

I've spent twenty-two years in the city, all hours of the day and night. I don't see an escalation of gun related violence. Some years are more violent than others, that's about all. This year has been rough, the latest triple homicide, allegedly at the hands of two teenaged gunmen has the city leaders up in arms.

There is no good time to shoot somebody, people get shot in broad daylight in Providence, a curfew is an overreaction from Providence's leaders who are being pressured by public opinion to "do something." All that needs to be done is to lead our lives like responsible, productive members of society and demand the same from everybody else. The days of looking the other way and not getting involved are over. Its time to lead by example, act like a man, or woman,dress well, open doors, treat people with respect and demand the same from those who don't. Start today, stop tolerating people who spit in front of you, neglect to hold a door, cut in front of you in line, swear in public and litter. Yeah, I'm idealistic, but it's all I can do to stem the tide. Sounds crazy, but by making my little place in the world a respectful one perhaps it will spread, and before long anti-social behavior will be the exception rather than the rule.

So, if you see somebody acting creepy, or disrespectful, or like an idiot say something. "Quit acting like an idiot" usually works. Doesn't stop the idiot from acting like an idiot, but the people who witness the event appreciate it, and grow a little more bold, and perhaps next time it will be one of them calling out somebody who is acting like a jerk.

Before long, the jerks will be outnumbered.


The Comment:


Unfortunately, some of the first who need to be told "stop acting like an idiot" are some of those in our own field. Flipping the finger at a photographer during a parade, running a string of hookers while on a career FD, slapping a microphone out of a reporter's hand after a tough question, treating the department's funds as if they were your own, kicking a handcuffed, seated woman in the head because you "felt threatened," trying to choke out a medic on an emergency run because he "dissed" you, stealing drugs out of the box to feed your own habit… all of these have happened — many more than once — whichmeans we have to clean our own house first. Someone once said, "you have to clean your own house or someone else will do it for you. And you may not like the results."
Yes, Captain Morse is right, our society has become insensitive, uncaring, rude, and downright obnoxious. But we — those of us in emergency services — are in a unique position to lead the way to a better society.
How many of us have the guts? Or are we going to continue to hide behind the bluster and bombast? Will we continue to pledge allegiance to the Oath Keepers, who claim for themselves the right to be judge, jury, AND executioner? Will we continue to believe that belittlement, condescension, and arrogance are the same as being "plain-spoken"?
Do you have the guts to be polite? To care — really CARE — about others? to say "I'm sorry" when you say or do something hurtful?
The Happy Medic ran a video clip last year of a funeral procession with a young boy standing at attention as the trucks went past, saluting the fallen. If we are to be worthy of that child's respect, we'd better start cleaning up our own acts. Then, and only then, can we demand that others clean up their acts.

Have a coffee on me, Mr618, you earned it!

1 Comment

  • Mr618 says:

    "Wish I'd said that"? Cap, you HAVE said it. You, and Statter, and Kaiser, and Grayson, and Schorr, and Schumm, and Glencourse, and so many others, have been saying just that, in one form or another, for years. Every one of you — and probably many others whose blogs I haven't found — have been saying that we have to get our house in order before we can complain about others.
    Every time you write about the problems in Providence, or when Schorr talks about problems in Frisco, or when Glencourse discussed similar problems in the UK, the care and concern came through, even more clearly than the occasional cynicism or even disgust.
    I probably shouldn't say this, but it was the seven of you (and Colorado volunteer Randy Cassingham of "This Is True") who convinced me to get up off my butt, go through the EMT class again (I had let it lapse) and get involved again. At the age of 53, mind you.  It was you guys who gave me the confidence to sign up for PEPP and GEMS and PHTLS. Well, you guys and Johnny and Roy, of course.
    It was you guys who said, "c'mon, dude, give it one more shot."
    I'm glad you did.

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